Monday, November 5, 2012

10 Simple Ways to Make Your Wife Happy


      While dream vacations and life milestones are important, it’s the simple things you do that make your wife happy. Show love and respect to your bride every day, and remind her why you were the best choice she’s ever made. Here are 10 basic tips for showing everyday love. Remember: Happy wife, happy life. (Hint: If you have a sign like the one Ryan's holding, it's likely  you're rocking the "husband" thing.)

     (Written originally for See my article here.)

1.       Introduce her with a compliment. Saying something like “I’d like you to meet my beautiful wife,” or “Here’s my better half” goes farther than you may realize. Publicly recognizing her as your cherished partner validates that you love her.
2.      Embrace when you see her. At the end of a long day conquering office battles and keeping the kids from climbing walls, you could both use a loving hug. Make a point of showing you missed her and are glad to be reunited. A big kiss doesn’t hurt, either.
3.      Ask her how you can help. If this is a new one for you, she may think there’s a catch. With a sincere willingness to give a helping hand, ask how you can lift her burden. This gesture applies to more than yard work, but being in tune with her needs emotionally and spiritually, as well. Sometimes she just needs a listening ear.
4.      Let her pick the movie. Or, if you’re playing games, let her choose. She needs to know her opinion counts in your marriage. Taking turns with these simple choices makes it easier to compromise on the bigger choices together.
5.      Forgive her fast. She forgot to pack your lunch, or accidentally broke your TV remote. So, she’s human, after all? With all that she does right, let it go when she makes mistakes. After all, you’re no perfection yourself, cupcake!
6.      Hold her hand in public. Some women are less inclined to public displays, but when appropriate, reach out and squeeze her hand. With the reassurance you’re proud she’s yours, she’ll walk a little taller, and smile a little bigger.
7.      Write her love letters. You don’t have to be Shakespeare; the thought matters most here. Focus on specific things you love about her; the wrinkle in her nose when she laughs or how she finds joy in the little things. You can hide it in her makeup bag, under her pillow, or somewhere else she'll discover it. She’ll be happily surprised and treasure your words for years to come.
8.      Open the door for her. Chivalry is not dead. Opening the door is a gentlemanly way to take care of your lady. She likely grew up wanting to be a princess. Be her prince.
9.      Carve out time for consistent date night. In an on-the-go digital world, it’s easy to get caught up in the minutia of kids, work, community, extended family and even church responsibilities. Set aside a weekly special night just for the two of you. It doesn’t need to be costly or extravagant. Just make an effort to court her, as you did when you were dating.
10.  Let her fly. As her partner, you are in the best position to help her reach her dreams.


  1. My guy rocks the "husband thing". I was just telling a friend the other day, it's strange to hear him say my name out loud. For the 13 years we've been in love, he's always called me "sweetheart" or "babe".
    What got me in the very beginning was that he opened my car door. He said that I passed his test with flying colors when after I was in, reached across and opened his from the inside. We still do that.

    He is truly the best choice of my life. <3

  2. Sweet! Thanks for sharing, Kryssie. You two are SO cute and I'm proud of you making your dreams come true together with your business, parenting...and being amazing people. Thanks for your example of true love!

  3. Your my "dream come true" babe. Glad my exceptional example could help you compile a helpful list. Well, maybe I could work on a few of these things...I love you. (under the pillow is nice, but I think your favorite place to find a love note is in a blog comment)

    1. You know me well, love. Thanks for commenting, but even more, for being such a wonderful husband. You are my FAVORITE.